quote of the day.

i just saw a good one here. "you must be the change you wish to see in the world." -ghandi now that's something we can use every day. i get so doggone frustrated with tg's sometimes. went to a support meeting down here in bloomington the other day. nothing but a bunch of whining and lamenting all the wrongs in the world. sure the world is tough, always has been and always will be, but where did we ever get the idea that we are entitled to justice, happiness and success? only true justice any of us will ever get is gonna come from God and that will be in another time and dimension. when i offer a positive approach to living all i hear is, "yeah, but you don't understand how rough things are for me!" everybody on earth can't possible have lived the most horrible life ever. being a victim has become a well practiced art in our society and too many people just like revelling in it too much. becoming a victim is as arbitrary as anything else in life, remaining one is largely a matter of choice. if you like being a victim then it's easy to remain one for the rest of you life if you want, but stop whining about it, it's the choice you have made. professional victims, sometimes it just gets nausiating. if i wanted to sit around and whine about all the nasty things that have happened to me in my life i could make a carreer of it too, but what for? i want to be a happy successful person, giving back to the world that has kept and nurtured me all these years. what happens to us is not nearly as important as what we do about it, how we handle it. being bitter just makes us bitter people. yes, i'm very pollyannaish, it's by choice. i could be bitter and empty too if i chose. i like being happy, i like being positive about life, i enjoy dreaming and working to make my dreams come true. i don't want it to end. if life were perfect, or even all that comfortable it wouldn't mean nearly as much as it does to me. what's wrong with liking a challenge? when did self-reliance go out of style? we really are what we make ourselves, ghandi is right, we do have to be the change we want to see in the world. sitting around lamenting and going "woe is me" is not change, it's the same tired old refrain losers have held onto forever. if you want the world to be better you've got to make yourself better first and then get up off you whinny little behind and make it so. it's so often true that what we see in the world is just a reflection of what's inside ourselves. when all we see is meaness and bitterness and anger and non-acceptance where does that come form? of course these things exist in the world, but so does so much more. wallowing around in these things without even making an effort to see the other side is just plain self-destructive. what a waste of so much talent and energy that is. so much creativity lost to the nothingness and mire of negativity. so there's my rant. now i'm off to the prom in my dreams, i'm always the prettiest girl there. lotsa love, pj